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Bad Birthing!

Earlier this year I was asked to host a HypnoBirthing/Natural Hypnotic Birthing course which I happily agreed to, being as we've been doing it for many many years and saved a good number of women a great deal of pain, so, why not?

I share this post post from a concerned individual who stepped into a conversation between ourselves and fellow postential attendees which resulted in some of them changing their minds in attending. The purpose of my sharing this is for it to stand as an example (as may be found in my 'Statement Analysis' book on deception) of how covertly people seek to manipulate others through fearmongering. 

Be warned, be vigilant and keep your conscious critical factor polished and active when someone presents a barrage of attack to your unconscious.

Her words are in red, with my analysis following on the line below.

"There is no way to say it any more gently
What I am about to say is harsh

although I will try to be gentle
Try=implies failure and the intention to do something but not doing it (like I shall try and get to the gym this week)

and realistic too
This is MY reality I am about to impose upon you for your acceptance/resistance

( having given birth twice )
I am an authority on this [bad birthing thing], twice over

.....until you give birth yourself,
If you haven't given birth then you are at a disadvantage

nobody has any concept of what it is really like
YOU have no concept of what it is really like [MY 'REALLY', so MY REALITY]

valid opinion can only be hold by someone who has experienced something.
Should be 'Held' not 'hold' (so communicator is rushing/upset/uncaring of communication
NLP – is this true? Is this useful? We have not personally walked on the moon but we believe and trust in the idea of zero gravity

until then it is only a theoretical opinion.
Therefore, zero gravity is only a theoretical opinion

After that, your opinion is only then based on your own experience unless you are a midwife or birth companion and even then, its nothing like gving birth -ask a midwife who has! 😉
Your opinion is based on your own experience (of which you have none, therefore reiterating MY authority).Missing apostrophe in shortened form of it is to 'it's'.  Misspelling of  ‘gving’ is another indicator of emotional state of communicator.
Personal note – I have trained midwives and emergency staff and intensive care nurses. Many midwives have not given birth and know far more about the birthing process than an uneducated female in distress, including a very amiable and hugely experienced male midwife.

Many . like me, I am sure,
More allusions to my sense of authority, reaching out for back up from wider world (technical an I/you shift) I am certain of this so you should listen

have believed 100 per cent in natural childbirth
I believed 100 per cent in natural childbirth

until we gave birth and found that it can be anything other than what we believed 100 per cent we would experience.
Until I gave birth and I found, through my own particular experience, that it was not what I thought I would experience so I felt/feel betrayed

To be fair to all women
I am being fair and honest here and am now drawing on the support of all women of the World

who have had a long or difiicult birth and been dmaged physically, pyschologically or both
You, like me, could have a long or difficult birth and be damaged physically, psychologically or both because this was MY experience (cloaking one’s own pain and hurt in being ‘fair’ to ‘all women’) spelling mistakes denote anxiety.

their opinion NEEDS to be heard,
‘Needs’ is capitalised = I am not being heard (I'm not coming on the course and I want (my pain/hurt/experience to be acknowledged)

not only by those who may help them, but prospective mothers need to be informed as to what can and frequently does occur that is less than positive
Presumption that those who may help them are uninformed
so that they can better prepare to deal with it.
You are not prepared to deal with it

Belief will not make a birth that becomes impossible to handle naturally for physical reasons any different.
Belief is unimportant

Some women who had tried to follow natural plans for birth feel very inadequate and incapable
I felt and still feel, very inadequate and incapable

if for any reason they have to resort to medical intervention to literally save life......
I had reason to resort to medical intervention … this is a life or death situation

all because of an unnaturally raised expectation
I had an unnaturally raised expectation

that they can do it all with no trouble.
I thought giving birth was no trouble/was led to believe giving birth was no trouble (and feel betrayed/want to save all women from same fate)

Sometimes, all too often, help IS required
Medical intervention was required during the birth of my children 

and no woman should feel they have let themselves or their child down if the birth is difficult or requires medical assistance.
I felt that I had let myself and my children down because of this

Expectation and belief DOES count for a great deal however
Contradiction. 

and every women needs to feel empowered at this time
‘Women’ rather than woman – emotional state indicator

I needed to feel empowered at the time I gave birth and did not
but the view of birth should be balanced and REALISTIC .
My reality imposing on yours, again

Yes, it's always miraculous and amazing and the new baby is always the most massive cause for celebration any woman will ever have
Meeting the client where they are to diffuse opposition

....but if she needs drugs, forceps, ventouse, a C section because the birth is impossible physically without those measures, then she needs to be prepared for them
I need to warn you all the medical interventions used in the birthing process that I experienced in case you do not know. 

or the trauma can be worse if the expectation of a joyful and easy birth is not balanced by the knowledge that some need help and sometimes all does not go according to plan
My trauma was worse because I had the expectation of a joyful full and easy birth 

. I fully believe and support the concept of natural birth
I did not have a natural birth but I like the idea of it

and methods such as hypnosis to achieve that end and I'd be the first to encourage every mother to invest their hopes and expectation in this and to go for it when it comes about BUT to ALSO become INFORMED COMPLETELY
Capitalisation indicates writer sees it as her duty to completely inform where there is presumed inadequate guidance from experts in the field

as to common challenges to birth and various interventions that MAY be necessary
Presumption of course content and education and intelligence of participants

. I believed with all my heart that as a young, fit, healthy and very active woman that birth for me would be straightforward and so did my doctors
I, of all people, should have had a better birthing experience. Drawing on expertise of authority of doctors (I/you shift)

....well, we had some adjustments to make in that belief on both occasions
‘We’ change to I to understand this client please. I have changed my belief system because of this

and that is a reality all women need to be prepared for
You must change YOUR belief system because of my experience

and it would be remiss of those who are mothers,
It is the duty of all mothers of the world….Drawing on every woman that has given birth (looking outside of oneself for support)

who have spent hours in labour and birth when challenges to their beliefs occur and very real damage does occur physcially and emotionally , not to warn other women to be realistic as well as to strive for their ideals.
Listen to me, I am warning you

This is a time when ideals can be unrealistic or even costly
My ideals were unrealistic. My ideals were costly

. The end result everyone wants is a HEALTHY BABY AND MOTHER and whatever it takes to get to that place is FANTASTIC whether a woman spends a couple of hours and delivers without a hitch or a C section becomes necessary with a whole team in the OR and special care baby unit
Meeting the client where they are to engage and regain Rapport. Then, more warnings on medical procedures assuming ignorance

. I honestly believe at any stage hpnosis is beneficial and can calm and control pain or anxiety and is immensly valuable as a stand-alone or complementary resource
More careless spelling indicating emotional state. More meeting client where they are.

.Birth is unique each time and the experiences of all women in it are valid.
Rapport, Rapport.

A conspiracy of silence over some of the less pleeasant aspects of it does not help anyone however
I am presuming a conspiracy of some sort – careless spelling again here. Presumption of course content and lack. Indication that writer is helping and others (silent ones) are not helping.

and I'd only ever seek to inform with the truth of poyrntial pifalls - not to scare –
I know I am scaring you so I shall tell you I am not scaring you - careless spelling indicator again here.

but to make other women aware that birth is a massive event and preparation for all eventualities needs to be balanced
I am presuming this hypnobirthing course that I am not attending will not be balanced
and as fully informed as possible. I am informing you because you are uninformed

Shared with the greatest respect to all opinions and especially all experiences and with the best of intentions for all. ❤
My best intention is to save you all from my fate."
I hold the greatest of respect of my own opinion and wish it to be yours too.  My best intention for everyone is that you are saved - I am therefore, your saviour.  Be grateful, be scared by my scars.  Poor me, I mean you no harm and it's not my fault you are now so scared and considering an abortion as you've just found out you are pregnant.  It's not my fault you are going back on those birth control pills to stop that pregnancy you were just considering.  I am just helping.



Okay, I admit the final couple of comments is moving out of the balanced technical interpretation!   However, the situation became more poignant as one lady soon found out she was indeed pregnant and another who was wanting to become pregnant resigned herself to never having children.

'A Day In The Life' of a successful hypnotherapist

The fabulous Lucy Waterhouse just sent me this message and I thought it useful to share with you, particularly our newly qualifieds who wonder if they will attract many clients! Like I always say, 'careful what you wish for'! Lucy knows you will forgive any spelling or grammar incongruencies in favour of her enthusiasm!

"Oh gods sounds horrid losing sense of smell and taste! Will imagine it back into being on your behalf.... hope to spark some magic return of said senses..... great ideas for my gambling enquiry I will respond to him forthwith hence forth and with great gusto!

Also had a return of my young OCD kid who is doing very well these days working and doing an apprenticeship full time booming social life and a girlfriend d but wants a couple of sessions that he will pay for himself to iron out a few things....

Mr anger management is doing fahhhhhhbulously absolute 100%turnaround on his aggression and is in full touch with the whole range of his emotions and us back for a trio of sessions to help him cope with his current marriage break up...

... and I have a sporadic client with a laundry list of everything to work though who had a past life session a few weeks ago and who is doing great just likes the odd session to keep on top of things...

... And a guy who I've seen here and there over the last few years who is lovely but has been clinging onto his misery since he,was about 30- he's 45 now until I laid it out to him straight that pontificating on the where's and why's and working our the the root of all his ills would inevitably drive him round in loops until he was prepared to make significant decisions to change and drag his brain kicking and screaming til it realised there was nothing to be frightened of and everything to gain...

.. have done 2 NBG s with him in recent weeks for 2 major sticking points which have had a seemingly profound effect. Worked on regressing him too to his 8 year old scared stiff out of depth self with no tools or skills to help himself (he was moved from a steiner school in South Africa to a mainstream school in the uk at age 8 and couldnt even read his own name and was frozen solid with terror and consequently up until a couple of weeks ago when he was faced with anything remotely challenging or involving academic knowhow- he is a university lecturer lol swings and roundabouts!- he just froze to the point of absolute inertia and panic and felt like he was drowning) anyway I regressed him to age 8 gave him a library full of resources then grew him back up again. Then did a NBG to find new ways of responding to challenges that would keep him moving and we seemed to hit a turning point! He said after our second pivotal session 2 weeks ago that he thinks I am "remarkable"!!!!! And also "amazing and talented"!!!!!

....just need him to put that in writing and go and hand out leaflets with it on now 😀 so yep yep yep everything still going in the right direction. Woohoo!"

Past Lives and all that....

Understanding:

Past life regression is a form of hypnosis which can be used to access the memories of an individual’s previous lifetimes.

The details uncovered from deep within the unconscious mind can explain how we can rediscover our former experiences which continue to have impact on our present situations. It offers a unique blend of meditation and hypnosis and therapy, taking participants on an exciting journey into the past, often explaining present day fears and phobias and clearing current blockages.

Participants are gently led into a beautifully calm state of mind using visualisation and relaxation techniques.

They won't fall asleep and will remain in control and fully aware of what is happening. It is a perfectly safe natural state of mind, similar to daydreaming. They will be able to experience their past in their mind’s eye as if they were actually there as it happened.

Sessions are also available privately. ______________________________________________________________

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Past Lives

There has been many possible explanations put forward as to what past life experiences may be, and you are free to choose whichever theory feels comfortable with your beliefs.

 

REINCARNATION: The belief that we return to this world many times in order to experience and evolve. I personally believe that this is the only concept that can explain all the experiences that I have dealt with during many hours of regression therapy.

 

GENETIC MEMORY: A theory suggesting that our memories are passed on from one generation to another through the cell structure or DNA. This can’t explain why most people regress back to many different cultural backgrounds.

 

FANTASY: Are we just making it all up? I do get asked this occasionally. There are many cases that can be documented through historical research, which can prove the accuracy of the information, far beyond the chances of random imagination.

 

SOUL MEMORY: The idea that people can access the memory of another soul, through the ‘Akashic’ records - the spiritual record of everything that has ever happened. This can be quite acceptable to some, but it doesn’t account for the continuity of character traits which seem to pass from on life to another.

 Regardless of personal beliefs, past life regression can work for everyone, so the important thing is to accept it and enjoy the benefits that it brings.

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Reasons for having Past Life Regression

People come for Past Life Regression for many different reasons. The main ones are:

THERAPY - Our character today represents a culmination of all the experiences we have had over numerous lifetimes. These past life events affect many aspects of our behaviour, and in some cases, past deeply emotional traumas can cause psychological problems which can not be cured with ordinary psychotherapy. Past life therapy can release these repressed thoughts and bring about a beneficial change.

UNDERSTANDING - Exploring your past lives offers a whole new dimension to the understanding of your own character. You suddenly realise for the first time why you are drawn to certain places or have a particular interest in something.

INTEREST - Many enjoy the experience of tracing their past lives purely from the point of curiosity. Certain past existences in particular can be pieced together with great detail, producing names, dates and places. Many of these details have been researched and authenticated, resulting in some fascinating literature on the subject.

RELATIONSHIPS - Quite often, groups of interacting souls reincarnate together and take on the roles of relations, friends or even rivals. Many believe this happens to balance the laws of karma - the harmony or disharmony caused by people’s behaviour towards each other. Have you ever met someone for the first time, yet feel you have known them all your life?

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Do you and your probable selves actualize the same events?

You do not ever meet a parallel lifetime, and you tend not to run into your overlapping lifetimes, because the trauma would be just too disconcerting. No, you don't run into them, and they don't have the same events.

Overlapping lifetimes are lifetimes where the previous one has not quite ended when the next one begins. The end of one overlaps the beginning of another. Sometimes your favourite television shows overlap, or two movies that you want to see on the same night overlap. It is disconcerting, isn't it?

Well, you do sometimes experience the same phenomenon in lifetimes since they are all simultaneous. One begins before the other ends, except with lifetimes you generally aren't aware of the overlap because it would be too confusing. It would be too confusing for a 5-year-old child to encounter or confront the 80-year-old man they are/were/are in a previous lifetime. It would be really disconcerting. They'd lock you up -- either as the old man realizing "I'm a 5-year-old child," or as a 5-year-old child realizing, "I'm an old man!" Either way, you're in trouble!

So therefore, you bury even the intuition or remembrance of such things. Shhhh! Don't even talk about that stuff, you know? Anyway, even if you did have an intuitive "hit," by the time you're six or seven you forget about it anyway, so we would suggest you aren't aware of probable selves like that. No, you don't run into them, and they don't have the same events.

With love and peace,

Lazaris

Getting Ready

Sometimes, it is good to have a kind of shorthand communication with your client.

The usual is a finger signal for yes and for no. EG. Which finger will you raise for a yes response? Thank you. Which finger will you raise for a no response? Thank you. That's good.

Suggestion to state to client:

“Stored deeply in your unconscious mind are memories of other times and other places. You are able to retrieve those memories. At this time, you will be able to gain access to the record of the soul's journey. By looking deeply into your unconscious mind, you can see, hear, feel, or sense --- perceive in some way --- scenes from the past. Those memories can be processed to provide you with new understanding and insight.

Later, you can apply your insights to understand yourself better. Now, you are going to begin a process of recalling some memories. Whatever you recall will be just what you need at this time. “

Questions that can be useful for debriefing

A. In what way were the issues of that other life related to your present concern?

B. What behaviours in that past life were similar to the some actions in your current life?

C. What patterns are you observing?

D. What insight or understanding did you gain that can help you at present?

E. How can those insights and understandings be applied, in a realistic manner, to make some changes in your projected future?

F. What specific changes are you making in your life?

IS PAST LIFE REGRESSION “REAL”?

In the frequently heated debate about whether past lives are "real", there is one question that is rarely asked: is PLR as effective in helping people to solve their everyday problems and improve their lives as other short-term interventions? This article will concern itself largely with this critical question, which is perhaps more important in the long run for PLR to become a proven therapeutic system than proving the "reality" of past lives.

Are Past Lives Real?

First, however, I'd like to address the question of whether or not "past lives" are real. In my years of both academic research and experiments with PLR, I have found huge volumes of data that would prove to any legitimate scientist that many "past life" memories are based on real historic people and events. I refer the reader to Helen Wambach's seminal research work (Reliving Past Lives), Marge Rieder's extraordinary and well-researched Mission to Marlboro, and Ian Stevenson's exhaustively scientific 30 Cases Suggestive of Re-incarnation written by a sceptical scientist. It seems to me that books like these (all of which are available from the Association for Past Lives Research and Therapy at 909-784-1570) are sufficient to prove to any objective scientific analyst that past life memories have been documented as accurate for a significant number of test subjects. Those who continue to deny this may present themselves as scientific. In reality, they are trapped in an irrational dogma comparable to the beliefs of those church "scholars" in the 16th Century who maintained their belief in an earth centred solar system in the face of Galileo's telescopes. ("My mind is made up! Don't confuse me with the facts!") These hardened dogmatists are in charge of much of the research funding and training of therapists today, just as the Catholic Church had a stranglehold on science in the 16th Century.

In any event, I have no particular desire to "prove" the existence of past life recall to the fanatical sceptic, since I feel the literature on the subject is replete with such proof. However, I will happily grant that most past life memories recalled by client's are essentially unprovable, and may indeed often be figments of the client's subconscious imagination. (Example: the client sees himself as Sir Lancelot approaching Camelot in shining armor and mounted upon a white charger. Historically, King Arthur's knights, if they existed at all, wore leather armour, were incapable of fighting on horseback, and lived in primitive wooden forts circa 600 AD)

Does it Work?

My point, however, is that when therapists inquire into the "reality" of PLR, they are asking the wrong question. The important question in my view is not whether PLR is "real" but whether it works in solving the client's problems. This question, alas, is very difficult to answer. Although some authors focus on the stories of client's who have benefited from PLR, many are still writing about PLR as a kind of therapeutic circus show ("Wow! Wasn't that a fascinating story!") rather than researching the long-term benefits, if any, that the client experienced. A further complication is that most PLR therapists have received very little formal training in the field. Most trainings offer only a few hours of brief and disorganized instruction, without adequate supervised practice, and with little emphasis on the specific therapeutic issues that respond best to PLR. Many other trainings in hypnotherapy and psychotherapy simply dismiss the whole concept of PLR as "unproved" and therefore beneath their need to teach or explain. The results? Even the most enthusiastic of PLR therapists may have a hard time documenting any benefits achieved by PLR. We may compare the relative success or failure of modern PLR therapists to the clumsy chopping of "surgeons" in the 15th century, whose training was completed without any understanding of surgical cleanliness, or even the most basic fundamentals of anatomy. Surely, if we judged "surgery" by the success rate of these practitioners, it would be found to be mere quackery by any modern analysis.

Anonymous therapist, internet source.