From Lucy Waterhouse, with thanks
Oct
2014
Well
yesterday was a resounding success I am pleased to say, I worked with
a couple who are friends of ours who are getting married in June and
who both want to 'lose some weight' for the wedding. I was only doing
the gastric band hypnosis for one of them today as I had limited
time, but now the other friend wants me to do a hypno band done as
well.
I had offered to do it for them both as a wedding present for
them both as I know that they are both very committed to making
lifestyle changes and really committed to being active in their
behavioural changes. Anyway, I decided after asking the person who I
was doing the band for today first if it was ok, that I would do a
consultation with them both together as they will be supporting one
another and I wanted them to outline and understand what their joint
goals were specifically. I did a lot of metaquestioning asking them
to be really specific in their expectations and their desired
outcome, helping them to change their language from blame frame to
outcome frame and 'moving away from moving towards' etc. It was a
really fruitful discussion and the deeper we went the more honest and
open they were becoming which was honestly really wonderful to be a
part of. We talked about the kinds of foods that they would be
willing and able to enjoy and stick to in place of the junk foods
they were choosing up until today (yesterday).
We talked about
strategies that they could put in place. Then I went upstairs with
the woman I was working with, I did the session in their house, and
asked her more personal questions about the attachment of guilt,
shame, punishment and reward to the foods that she was choosing
specifically and the emotional eating side of things. she was very
open and honest as far as I could tell (micro expressions training
really helped!!) and without even formally telling her that I would
be starting the trance part of the session, as she was already
showing good signs of being in a fairly deep level of trance without
actually going through the induction, fixed gaze, dilated pupils,
slowed breathing and so on, so just started asking her to notice her
breathing and start slowing her out breath, and then only spoke to
her as she was breathing out, which I stared doing more slowly until
she had really become very slowed down and relaxed. I went through a
long fractional induction, asking her to be mindful of all of her
body and how it has been designed to work so efficiently and with so
much complexity that her unconscious mind works so hard keeping
everything moving and digesting and metabolising as well as working
behind the scenes to protect her, I started to introduce the idea of
filling her body with things that are healthful and nutritious, not
just food but the way she communicates with herself and the idea of
having control over her breathing and her heart rate meant that she
would have more control over other aspects of her body and its
functions. Anyway, I did all the regular stuff, relaxing place (which
was actually two places, her own home with her partner and her dog
and a beach that they visit every year to stay in a caravan on the
beach...) anchoring them and asking for an IMR from her finger on the
nearest hand, which I got very clearly- she remembered afterwards
that it had happened a couple of times, the IMR that she was aware
of, she described it as being like that weird jerk you get when you
are falling asleep and feel like you are avoiding tripping or falling
by moving or twitching without consciously making it happen. I did
the gastric band then did a New behaviour generator which I got some
fantastic feedback from her moving her finger, I mentioned when I
nominated a finger that she could tell me that she was on board with
the thoughts and ideas that I was saying at any point during the
session by moving that finger and I got regular and distinct finger
movement with what was happening- therefore I was getting an IMR at
regular intervals throughout the whole session, not just when I asked
a direct question but I had said when I touched her feeling that any
time her unconscious mind was in total agreement with what I was
saying to her, she would be able to move that finger to let me know
she was fully on board. She became emotional several times during the
session, especially when I mentioned her partner and dogs, including
her dog who had passed away last year, she told me that in her ideal
relaxing place there would be her, her partner and both dogs. I did
some really detailed future pacing going forward days, weeks, months
and years, having her greet her future space and assimilate that
future self into her current self and begin to be that future self
starting right now. She had made some wonderful facial expressions
throughout the session, joy, sadness, teariness, real sadness,
surprise, but mostly very very peaceful.
When I brought her round,
counted up to 5, and she woke feeling absolutely fantastic and
really, really motivated. I told her that her signals that she was in
a deep trance were really clear and that she looked completely
relaxed and she said that she felt like she had had a refreshing 8
hour sleep and felt really motivated! I got a text from her saying
that they had used smaller plates for their dinner and were both
satisfied. Not stuffed.
My next session with her, I will concentrate
on feeling full and stuffed vs feeling satisfied and comfortable, and
the reward/punishment aspect of her relationship with food as well as
reinforcing. I might do some more NLP with her as the NLP worked
really well in the beginning. She absolutely felt like she had had a
8 hour sleep and felt REALLY relaxed but incredibly motivated, she
said "I just keep thinking 'bring it on!!'" I told her that
she had had a wonderfully relaxed expression in her face and that I
could see how emotionally invested she was in making this WORK. she
had specifically asked if she could have her dog who has passed away
in her relaxing place, along with her wife-to-be and her other dog
who is still alive, and when we went to that relaxing place I could
see the emotional reaction that she was having, both a joyous feeing
of safety and calm an love but also that she was very emotional, we
went back there a few times and when she woke up she said 'it was
really beautiful, I was on the beach with my two dogs and my
[fiancée] and the beach was completely empty except for us and I
could feel the beach, you know, like the wind and the water on my
feet and I was so happy there that I felt like i had tears running
down my face'
After the gastric band part of the intervention I did
the new behaviour generator with her, just briefly and her
unconscious mind was blatantly on board with absolutely all the
concepts and choices that her unconscious mind was taking it all in
and processing things...I have another session in the offing in the
next 10 days to 2 weeks then another and maybe another, then in that
same time period I will be working with her wife-to-be and I can
honestly say she was an absolute dream of a client and I can't wait
to work on our next session. it was just fabulous! (again thanks for
reading my tome!) next hypnotherapy day at the charity counselling
centre is on Tuesday next week as in, 3 days’ time!!! Finally....
We have lift off!
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