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answer
This
is a difficult situation and in which the response will need to
include the following considerations
It
is not appropriate to conduct a smoking cessation session with
someone who does not want to participate. Unless the wife agrees
to participate I would offer a refund as this is a compromising
situation.
Given
the assumption that I am able to get some level of agreement to
participate, I would progress with the focus on the wife as the
client (not the husband who paid for it). I would then use
meta-questioning to ascertain why she is reluctant to stop
smoking and what perceived benefits she feels she gets from it
At
this stage I may reference research and public health information
campaigns which are widely available but it is important to note
that many people have developed selective perception around these
– as an ex-smoker myself I know that I actively avoided or
minimised ‘hard hitting’ adverts. I knew all of the reasons
not to smoke but these did not apply to me! The occasion on which
I stopped smoking (this time) was when I found the key arguments
that worked for me – that I ran for a bus and couldn’t
breathe. I was unable to balance that with my view of being
relatively fit and started the non smoking process. Whilst I
would not share this with the client I would see if a similar
approach worked- has she seen the adverts and does she identify
with them? What are the reasons for her continued use- how does
smoking fit with her view of herself? Does she see herself as a
smoker? Does she see this as a permanent state? How does this fit
with her perception of herself as a mother? How would she feel in
future if her child starts smoking? What were her own reasons for
starting?.... It is important that there is a balance of
perspective here rather than being accusatory or blaming. An open
and empathic approach of curiosity is more likely to be
effective.
If
there is a genuine and open acceptance to change at this point I
would continue, but if there was not I would be declining the
rest of the session and offering support in the future if she
changes her mind. One possibility is that this might actually
shock her into being open to change – there is nothing more
irresistible than something which is not available. By declining
to continue the hypnotherapy the idea of non smoking may actually
become more desirable.
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