JIM SKINNER
My reflections on the
course in general are somewhat random and will not be in date order
as like the course itself I found that I was using distraction
techniques (my grass has never been cut so often, my car never so
clean,etc. etc.) to avoid actually concentrating on the course work
because I am not by nature the type of person that can sit and apply
focus when left to my own devices. I clearly lack the discipline to
study alone but sharing work space with others even though it was
still my own work being done in my own way, works for me, and from
conversations with other delegates I am not alone in this.
Many times I sat down
to ‘just do one question’ which I would start and despite the
fact that I have the knowledge within me, my mind would go blank or I
would start writing and then find that I was deleting my work and
starting again because I am hyper-critical and think I should do
better work.
This was a recurring
theme throughout the first months and as each week passed my
avoidance was becoming tinged with cross-ness and a profound
disappointment in myself for not just doing it !
I know I can actually
do the work, and I have the knowledge, so why not do the work was the
question I was beating myself up with.
The email I received
from the course tutor Jennie Kitching suggesting that if enough
people were interested she would arrange an intensive session to
assist the completion of the course was to me an absolute relief, and
I didn’t have to think twice. The response was not a surprise to
me, there was rapid ‘yes please’ from many of the students
wishing to get together and having a joint focus on completing the
course.
Changes throughout my
career so far that I wish to share here really focus on my levels of
confidence and competence.
My confidence in my
abilities as a Hypnotherapist have grown exponentially with each
client and each issue that I have dealt with, I was definitely
nervous and uncertain in the beginning and felt concern that the
client would not enter trance, but because of my training and the
advice to display confidence even if I wasn’t feeling it, has paid
dividends for me. I now enter each session knowing that I have the
ability to do the job and do it well and that I can and do help my
clients.
My belief in my
competence has grown as I get more and more positive feedback from my
clients.
I have recently been
doing group relaxation sessions for the staff at the local Hospice
where I volunteer, one day a week. I had done very little group work
prior and the little I had done was for 2/3 people, I had 12 people
for my first session here and I soon realised that ensuring that my
induction and deepener fitted so many people was somewhat more
challenging than I had thought, as with that many people and the
shortage of time available I couldn’t check individually if anyone
was claustrophobic or suffered with hayfever etc. etc. and that what
I was saying would work for them all. I changed the approach on my
second session making it more generic, however on reflection I still
haven’t got it quite right yet. The feedback has been positive and
I may be making it more difficult for myself than is necessary.
Thinking about my
reflective practice I now finally understand the true value
particularly in relation to my own performances.
This
is a pleasure to read Jim and we are so grateful that we are all a
collective Unity presence that can affect each other and get things
done! We all help each other and so long as we keep communicating
I am sure we will achieve great things together. It is s delight to
hear of your progressions and I will only reiterate that I think many
of us would be wise to share our thoughts more often and get the
support we know would be forthcoming rather than trying to go it
alone. It is a common ‘side effect’ of the profession of being a
hypnotherapist that we do wonders for folks every day and neglect
ourselves and can give each other the very experience we all need to
be brilliant therapists!
CHERYL MURIEL
I found attending my
first Group Peer session so helpful. Being able to discuss
experiences with others is very reassuring. Learning tips and
receiving advice has also been empowering and inspiring. I have also
enjoyed the social aspect of being with a group and being amongst
like-minded individuals. It makes working for myself and setting up
my own business less daunting. Good to hear
this.
ENTRY 5 – 17 May 2015
Working on the
intensive Advanced Hypnotherapy course has confirmed what I know
about my own learning techniques. This course has been so useful in
motivating me to achieve my goals and prevented me from
procrastinating and wasting time in terms of my career development.
Being surrounded by my peers and allocating specific time to study, I
have achieved more over the last two days than I have over the last
year. Fabulous Cheryl, well done, great news.
LUCY
WATERHOUSE
I
have unleashed a huge burning desire to write and research and will
be making more time to do this as I progress in my career. I have
loved this course, though I started off slowly, it has been something
that has triggered such an enormous interest and ignited such a
passion- actually the passion to help people and to bring about
healing has always been there, I am a reiki master too, though that
didn’t feel like it was enough. Hypnosis has bridged that gap for
me and I am in love with it. I truly hope that this is the start of a
lifelong relationship of learning and growth or me and that I am able
to facilitate the same in others.
PHILIP
AYRES
Firstly,
my flying client, I used a Milton example of how he told stories to
help his clients with their personal problems. One of these was a
lady who saw him and forgot to put her sunglasses on and how he spoke
of forgetfulness to her. Throughout my learning’s on this course I
looked again more deeply into this and put this into practice with my
client. The reason I used this method was that he relies on dextrose
tablets as his positive support, to help him in bad, difficult and
anxious moments. I spoke to him about forgetting and how we do this
naturally everyday without thinking. I could see his mind starting to
process the thoughts of forgetting. He has since told me that he is
about to put his therapy work into action and take a flight. I was
also more aware of his secondary gain towards his issues, I
reframed this to him using an example of another person and how they
kept relying on the secondary gain of dependency. This also got him
to think about dropping his secondary gain and to move towards his
prime goal of being able to fly and go abroad.
On
reflection, I don’t think I would have come to this conclusion
quite so quickly if it hadn’t been for this course, which has
prompted me to do some more therapy in adding this to my therapy
session, depending on the individual need of my client.
It
is so good to know how useful the course has been for you Philip,
thank you for using the information presented in such a beneficial
way for all. I would love it if you put this sort of thing on the
Forum to encourage others to contribute as well, thank you.
My
work stressed client.
This
client portrayed classic non-commitment language, even though he was
the boss. He wanted his work force to do things in a certain way, he
couldn’t get them on his side, so to speak. I was aware of his own
internal thoughts and classic non-commitment language. I addressed
the fact that he wasn’t setting a good example at work. For
instance he wanted everything tidy, but his desk was piled high in
paperwork and his desk was broken. I also reflected back to him how
he wanted things to change around him, but he wasn’t willing to
change himself. Once he saw his own lack of commitment with his own
thoughts, language and actions, he could see himself as the third
person in this relationship. He decided to see how he had been with
himself and then realized what he could do to change the situation.
With the realization he reflected back to me, he had a very strong
committed language of how he will now implement the change and his
first job on Monday morning was to get his desk fixed and tidied up.
This
client was very distressed when he came to see me, but soon into our
session his demeanor had changed and he was fired up to get
on with the change that he wanted. I feel that the course highlighted
aspects of my therapy that I need to revisit and probably get back to
basics and part of the course learning’s has made that happen.
Again,
an excellent application of the learnings of this course and
interesting to see how it is inspiring you and helping others, thank
you.
I
realised that I know more than I thought; this of course would
reflect that you do not know what you know until you are asked the
question. I will be able to add more to this when I am on the
course or on completion of that. But at the moment I’m pleased to
say that I have completed the tasks and will continue learning.
I will be in a much better position to refine and hone my skills more
effectively
Using
the learning’s in a therapy environment has helped me think more
positively with my clients and the acronym of the word KISS, meaning
keep it simple stupid will be more appropriate. I believe that I will
see things a little more objectively, on reading new material and
studies on therapeutic therapy whether from science or the holistic
side of treatment.
In
all it has added a new dimension to the way I will treat my clients
in the future, and also in my continual personal development.
I
feel right now that to up my game in my development I need to engage
more with my potential client audience, using videos and mp3
downloads. Knowing that I came through this course with a higher
standard than when I entered into it will go a long way to being more
specialized in therapy. JennieKitching has been a silent inspiration
to me as I have known her for some time now. Although learning hasn’t
been easy for me, I can recognise that I did the best I could have
done and being lead by Jennie has motivated me as I find her a great
inspiration. So all of it will go a long way to changing my
direction of being a recognized therapist.
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